Some of you may have noticed when you visited my website that the title under my name says “Holistic Leadership Coach”.
You may be wondering, “What does a Holistic Leadership Coach do?”
You may even be wondering, “What is Holistic Leadership?”
To help you to understand these concepts, I thought I would write this blog to create some clarity and transparency about how I define Holistic Leadership.
Holistic as a Definition
Many of us are familiar with the term “Holistic” when it comes to natural medicines or even spirituality.
When you Google the word “Holistic” you may find pictures of crystals, massage, acupuncture, yoga, meditation, or burning sage. But what does it mean in terms of leadership?
When I look at Holistic in terms of Early Childhood Education and Leadership, I like to refer to the definition found in Te Whāriki when it refers to Holistic Development:
Holistic development – children learn and grow in a holistic way. Their intellectual, social, cultural, physical, emotional and spiritual learning is interwoven across all their experiences.Ministry of Education
Some of you may be familiar with my work and may have read my book Weaving Your Leadership Whāriki.
In my book, I speak about my belief that the needs that our children have in order to develop into confident, competent, whole-hearted, life-long learners are what the grown-ups need too. I also believe that the well-being, sense of belonging, ability to contribute, communicate and explore in our learning environments for everyone is intimately interconnected in one integrally, interwoven, beautiful, complex whāriki.
In other words, what affects one strand of our centre whāriki affects all the strands.
If we want great outcomes for children, then we need to look after teachers. And if we want great outcomes for teachers then we need to look after leaders.Tanya Valentin
Holistic Leadership and Me
I have been in the education profession for many years. During this time there have been many popular philosophies for teaching and leading. One of the leadership philosophies that were popular when I was a new leader. was “leave your personal stuff at the door”.
And this is how I learned to view leadership:
You see, I was taught to believe that leadership was a role that I did at work. It was something outside of me. Leadership was something that was above me – just out of reach. Something that I had to work hard to achieve.
During my early years as a leader, I was taught that leadership was a top-down, hierarchical construct.
It took years to undo this learning. However, since then, my new learning on leadership has been:
- Leadership is in me.
- The person and the leader cannot be separated. You lead with your whole self. Which means that you lead from your strengths but also your challenges.
- You are already a leader. You may not have a leadership title. However, by taking accountability for yourself, your thoughts, your beliefs, your decisions and your actions you are a leader.
- We are all worthy and leaderful in our own right. Just as I am a “whole” person, flawsome and already worthy of love and acceptance, so are all the other people (child and adult) in our learning community a “whole” person, flawsome and already worthy of love and acceptance. I love the Te Ao Maori concept of AKO which speaks to the reciprocal sharing of the responsibility of teaching and learning, leading and following.
- If we want leaders who lead with confidence, love and integrity, then we need to take care of the person at the heart of the leader.
- Rather than the top-down model of leadership I was taught, I believe that leaders are the root system that forms the foundation from which the whole tree can thrive. If the roots are malnourished, then the whole tree withers.
Ehara taku toa i te toa takitahi, engari he toa takitini – My strength is not as an individual, but as a collective.
What does a Holistic Leadership Coach Do?
As mentioned in the previous paragraph, we lead with our whole selves, and we lead others as whole humans. This can come with its challenges.
As illustrated in my diagram above on Holistic Leadership we are made up of many beautiful dimensions that influence who we are personally and professionally. If we neglect one dimension it will affect who we are and how we lead. The same goes for the people whom we lead.
Traditionally we have been taught to develop “leadership skills”. However, if we just focus on the leadership aspect of ourselves without addressing what is going on for the person then we can never hope to create strong, robust leadership for our profession we and all pay the price for this.
This certainly has been true for me. In an earlier blog, I reflected on my early experience with leadership:
In another lifetime, I would have done anything to not feel the discomfort and the pain of confronting myself – my truths. My younger version was happy to keep myself safe, to do as I was told, to go with the flow, to not ruffle any feathers and to play it small. I would do anything to avoid conflict. If you met me on the floor of my centre, you would think, “wow she is always so calm” “she always looks so happy”.
Inside I was at war. I was at war with myself. I knew that there were truths that I was swallowing, conflicts that I was avoiding and incompetence, unkindness and prejudice in others that I was tolerating. I was doing so to keep the peace. I told myself that this was for the best for everyone involved. However, I was lying to myself – things that you bury have a way of festering and coming back up to the surface.
If I was being honest with myself, I was PETRIFIED.
I was petrified of admitting that I didn’t have the skills to handle the situation, of not having all the answers. I was petrified of making a mistake and letting my boss and my team down. I was petrified of not being in control of the situation of not living up to my own, impossibly, high expectations of myself. I put off challenging bad practice in others, because I was petrified about what shortcomings it would unearth about me. I was petrified of looking like a fraud and I was petrified of appearing weak. I was petrified of being wrong, and any feedback that wasn’t glowing praise. Paradoxically by the time the glowing praise had filtered through my brain it sounded like criticism to me anyway.
There was a thought loop, a narrative playing over and over in my head keeping me rooted to the spot. In this thought loop I was telling myself that I was not good enough, that I just couldn’t do it, that I just wasn’t strong enough.Tanya Valentin
I wrote these words in 2018, and what I have discovered again and again is that it isn’t the stuff outside of us that trips us up but rather the stuff on the inside of us.
It is not what we know that creates change, but how we implement it.
Each of us wages a silent war with ourselves against the things we were taught to believe about ourselves during our formative years.
As a Holistic Leadership Coach, I support leaders to create a clear vision for how they would like to live their lives personally and professionally based on what is important to them. I support leaders to look at what is currently happening for them and what might be holding them back. I then work with them to align their thoughts, values, beliefs, and behaviors so that they can implement strategies to help them to succeed.
If you would like to find out more about Holistic Leadership Coaching and how this might work for you feel free to book a FREE 30-minute Exploration Call you can do this HERE.
Download my FREE self-assessment tool to start your Holistic Leadership relationship with yourself.